tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511496614728378084.post6298664731713620036..comments2023-12-06T03:29:13.101-05:00Comments on don't ya wish your girlfriend was <i>smart</i> like me?: What's wrong with this article? Marriage and Taxes, part 2lindabethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16137817218867386560noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511496614728378084.post-60802399294719883262008-04-17T02:04:00.000-04:002008-04-17T02:04:00.000-04:00Hadn't seen them before but I browsed them and the...Hadn't seen them before but I browsed them and they look promising-thanks! From first glance, they do seem heterosexually oriented, which is too bad, but I guess it's a start.<BR/><BR/>I will look at them in more detail, but off the bat, I'm curious how they're going to do deal with issues of class--what they're proposing seems to require some economic privilege to be viable. But I'll see whatlindabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16137817218867386560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511496614728378084.post-7566499771811781112008-04-16T23:02:00.000-04:002008-04-16T23:02:00.000-04:00With regards to co-parenting, are you familiar wit...With regards to co-parenting, are you familiar with <A HREF="http://equallysharedparenting.com/index.html" REL="nofollow">Equally Shared Parenting</A> and the <A HREF="http://www.thirdpath.org/" REL="nofollow">Third Path Institute</A>? They have some interesting approaches to balancing the home/work dichotomy which I think would dovetail well with your ideas about a broader range of familial Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511496614728378084.post-33800235259459017342008-04-16T16:47:00.000-04:002008-04-16T16:47:00.000-04:00Maybe the corrective to this is to suggest to men ...<I>Maybe the corrective to this is to suggest to men that they can nurture children as well as mothers? Not as men, but as human beings? If that were more generally accepted, we might see a difference in the way the courts assign custody, too.</I><BR/><BR/>ding ding ding!<BR/><BR/>I completely agree with you-this is exactly it re: the courts situation. It is also the exact reason that when lindabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16137817218867386560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511496614728378084.post-73902862838877985532008-04-16T15:02:00.000-04:002008-04-16T15:02:00.000-04:00I’d be interested in seeing that reference, if you...I’d be interested in seeing that reference, if you can dig it up. I do think that the whole “mothers and fathers naturally fulfill separate roles” approach is responsible for a lot of the anguish surrounding fatherhood. There seems to be a fear (which I’ve noticed in myself occasionally in different contexts) that if women can economically provide for their children as well as men can, then menAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511496614728378084.post-21934333639024866912008-04-16T12:00:00.000-04:002008-04-16T12:00:00.000-04:00I agree on your "deviation from the norm" assessme...I agree on your "deviation from the norm" assessment. Of course, this also comes into play in terms of the 'official' studies that look at the "importance" of two-parent households (in terms of raising children well). They look at 2-parents (husband and wife) vs. 1-parent, and conclude that kids need mothers <I>and</I> fathers...<BR/><BR/>I'll have to dig up the reference but others have lindabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16137817218867386560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2511496614728378084.post-76339866431616742812008-04-16T11:45:00.000-04:002008-04-16T11:45:00.000-04:00Interesting stuff. I think your conclusions are s...Interesting stuff. I think your conclusions are spot on, and this bit especially struck me:<BR/><BR/>“Further, they conclude that we should tell people how they should structure their networks of association in their life <I>because it would cost less in government expenditures</I> and because they are deviating from some sort of arbitrary 'normal'.”<BR/><BR/>It seems like the “deviat[ion] from…Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com